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Confronting the Household Gods:

The Church's Revision of the Family

as the

'Basic Political Unit'

by


Mary C. Moorman

 

[Ms. Moorman, an Episcopalian and native of San Antonio, Texas, graduated from Hillsdale College, B.A., Boston University School of Law, J.D., and Yale Divinity School, M.A.R. The essay was written in May 2006 for a Seminar in Political Theology at YDS taught by Joe R. Jones, then Visiting Professor of Theology. Ms. Moorman is currently enrolled in the Ph.D. program in Theology at Southern Methodist University. Numbers in brackets refer to notes found at the end of the essay. Used here by permission. Copyright©Mary C. Moorman. Posted here 3/19/07.]


Christians and the Church are the sort of folk who know themselves as the beneficiaries of Christ’s living and dying and being raised, and who therefore know themselves as in Christ… Because of Jesus Christ, Christians construe the world differently from the many human points of view that shape human identity and living.”[1]

… “every other theme is interpreted through this Gospel….”[2]

… “the Gospel is not altogether friendly to the family.”[3]


As Stanley Hauerwas’ deputized author on the Christian family,[4] Rodney Clapp notes the obvious: evangelical Christians fiercely champion “the traditional family.” After all, the traditional family is linked with the free enterprise and the traditional values of the American polity, and it is “threatened” in the modern era of moral relativism and shaky sexual ethics.[5] Such a defensive posture reflects modern evangelicals’ emphatic reliance on the biological family as the very center of God’s purposes and work on behalf of the world.[6] In the words of the traditionalist theologian R.J. Rushdoony, “God’s dominion is extended in the world through the biological family, which is essential to the life of the Church, state, (culture), and every phase of life… but in its primary assignment and orientation, (God’s dominion) is given to the family. The central area of dominion is… the family under God.”[7]

In contrast, Rodney Clapp stands with Hauerwas in urging:

I have tried to remind Christians that for us the family is constituted by a quite different politic from the world… in particular, I have objected to the view of some Christians that the greatest virtue of Christianity is the bulwark it supposedly provides for some form of defense of the family. That seems to me to be nothing short of idolatrous. After all, Christianity has been and will continue to be, if we are serious as Christians, a challenge to familial loyalties.[8]

A similar assumption is evident in Joe Jones’ summons in a certain ordination sermon, which he treats as “an earnest exercise in Church politics.” In this sermon, Jones does not cling to the prerogative of the home and family to claim the primary commitments of a Christian. Rather, Jones instead suggests that the church must open its arms to supporting the minister’s family, who will surely experience her absence more than they would prefer (on account of her service).[9] Hauerwas has similarly referred to the frustration of families and parents whose children dare to consider a missionary or religious vocation against family wishes; Hauerwas designates such events as clear evidence that the call of Gospel can pose a serious challenge to family loyalties.[10]

Clapp considers evangelicalism’s “glorification” of the family to be the last great stronghold of pagan family idolatry.[11] Clapp thus contests that just as the Christian must submit that his first social responsibility is owed to the Church rather than to the state,[12] so must the Christian regard her family loyalties as relativized under the over-riding loyalty demanded by Christ and His family, the Church.

In conversation with these aforementioned theologians, I will address the modern evangelical culture’s political construal of the family as “kingdom.” I suggest that such designation expresses itself in the evangelical culture’s calling of the surrounding world, not into the universal body and kingdom of Christ, but rather, into a sacralized version of family life and political loyalties. I suggest that since the Church’s politics are called by the Gospel to be distinctly different from the world’s, the Christian family (as the Church’s basic “political” entity) must construe itself anew to respond to the summons of Christ within the Church, in full awareness of the tension which its nuclear goals and interests may encounter against the Church’s primary politics, and in full intention to submit family interests to the interests of the Church.[13]

In short, the human household must be relativized under the reign of God’s Household.[14] With Hauerwas, I will argue that apparent tensions between Church and family may be resolved by a more robust ecclesiological construal of the Christian family as the Church’s family and agent, whose significance is derived from the Family of God,[15] and whose value is understood relative to its contribution to the mission of that primary Family.[16]

The Family’s Family: Secular Construals

Various para-Church initiatives identify themselves as practical expressions of Rushdoony’s political thought; among these, The Vision Forum (hereafter, Forum) describes its theology of the Christian family in predictably Rushdoonian terms, beginnings with the Forum's response to “the defining crisis of our age: the systematic annihilation of the Biblical family."[17] Affiliated authors elaborate: the family is God’s primary vehicle for communicating covenant promises to the next generation; it is thus the basic agency of God’s dominion on earth.[18] For purposes of this essay, I have chosen to treat the Vision Forum as a primary reference to modern, Reformed Evangelical ideals of Christian family life and social policies. This choice is consonant with the Forum’s self-identification and public representations.

While lamenting the Church’s supposed neglect of the family, as evidenced by “the diminishing of patriarchal structures”[19] in modern culture, the Forum’s ecclesiology reflects their construal of the relationship between the Church and the family. The Church is viewed as being somehow derived from the family: “minimize the father and the family will perish. Minimize the family and you have neutralized the Church.”[20] Acordingly, Forum authors continue:

Rediscovering the biblical concept of “patriarchy” is a first attempt in countering…dysfunctional cultural values. The godly family IS the foundation of the social order; God created the family FIRST, and then out of the family came the state AND the Church. Furthermore, there can be no legitimate doubt that the father, in the home, has genuine authority from God to govern the family; and both the wife and the children are required to submit to his lawful governance. Not even the Church is to take precedence over the father in lawfully governing his home.[21](emphasis theirs)

In this construal, Church and state are viewed as parallel superstructures which together exist to benefit and support the small “kingdom” of the individual father’s domicile.[22] The family grips an exclusive mandate in the formation and education of their children, though the family may exploit the benefits of the Church to serve selective family purposes.[23] Furthermore, the Church is thought to derive its structure, form, and function from the family, since “male leadership in the home carries over into the Church.”[24] The Forum thus places great emphasis on reviving notions of “patriarchy,” whereby the family father parodies the sacerdotal role of mediating God’s guidance to his subordinate wife and offspring.[25] From the father’s “government” within his home, his local political rule extends into the church and the larger community. On the whole, this theology of the family revolves around notions of Christian cultural dominance through the inculcation of values within the home;[26] and always, the home is “central to God’s kingdom work.”[27]

Though seemingly pious in orientation, such theologies of the family derive precious little from the explicit witness of Christianity and the robust ecclesiology of the Christian tradition. In many instances, it seems that modern evangelical Christians prefer instead to baptize those universal models of hierarchy, patriarchy, and modern market values which are equally at home in both pagan and Christian cultures as their orienting paradigms. For instance, Forum-endorsed publications lament receding birth rates, which many secular governments are also desperate to halt; however, the Forum authors do not recite traditional Christian motivations for an expansive family life. Rather, these authors recite links between the expansion of the family and the interests of the nation’s expansion,[28] and reference the public pleas for larger families and reinforced patriarchal structures in the military speeches of the ancient Roman Republic.[29]

Another sympathetic scholar elaborates on the family as the “basic political unit” in pagan cultures, where the Roman domus, as ruled by the absolutely powerful paterfamilias, constituted “part of the natural order, the basic unit of society, upon which the city, and ultimately the state, was built.”[30] Cicero had already established that the family was “the seed bed of the state,” an essential political institution that mediated between the individual and the larger society in the Stoic worldview; Harrison summarizes Cicero’s view that “in essence the household was a miniature ‘state’ over which the father ruled, its unity and harmony ensuring the well-being of the state.”[31]

On these secular foundation shared with pagan politicians, Forum authors rejoice at their population projections, because “liberal” cultures have been producing too few children to avoid population decline, whereas family-friendly “conservatives will inherit the earth.”[32] These authors aim towards a national culture that will restore “patriarchy,”[33] and a value system that requires men to marry women “of proper station…(in) a regime that serves to keep birthrates high among the affluent.”[34] This desirable “cultural evolution” promises to “maximize (certain) populations, and therefore their power,” while those who eschew such structures “will be either overrun or absorbed.”[35] On the Forum authors’ analysis, the benefits of patriarchy “collectively serve to maximize fertility and parental investment in the next generation” through the “stigmatization of illegitimate children”[36] and the enhancement of the father’s social status, emotional power, and commitment to personal legacy. A key facet of this arrangement is “the structural penalization of women who do not marry and have children.”[37] According to their goals of cultural dominance and national power, these authors conclude that in light of brute numbers and potential for exclusion, “population is still power,” and “the historical relation between patriarchy, population, and power has deep implications for our own time.”[38]

In particular, the explicitly referenced connection between family life and national interests has to do particularly with military strength (“it is often the number of boots on the ground that changes history”);[39] with economic stability (“…the falling ratio of workers to retirees is overwhelmingly caused by workers who were never born”); and with moral continuity. The authors rejoice that in light of such data, trends will inevitably begin to reflect the hegemony of “traditional families” who produce more children:

People adhering to more traditional, patriarchal values inherit society by default: when the children of ‘secularists’ look around for fellow secularists with whom to make common cause, they will find that most of their would-be fellow travelers were quite literally never born.[40]

However well intentioned, there is a glaring disjuncture between such social goals, which implicate the family as existing for its own sake and the sake of the coercive nation, and the mandates of the crucified and risen Christ. The Christian confesses that it is Christ who is the King of Kings, to whom ultimate political allegiance is owed. Furthermore, the Christian confesses that this King entered His world to seek and to serve by the outpouring of His own life, and promised His Kingdom not to the mighty and many but to the meek, the poor, and the pure. If Christians are resigned to the follow the state’s urging to build their families as political units on the state-making principles of Cicero, while ignoring their political identity under their heavenly King and His Church, a revised vision for the Christian’s family re-construal under Christ must be desperately needed.



King Jesus’ “Basic Political Unit”

The Church, the harbinger of the Kingdom of God, is now the source of our primary loyalty.”[41]

Though Christians readily accept the family’s legitimate sanctity to the extent that the Church has so recognized, any attempt to establish a Christian’s primary allegiance to the family as a central locus of authority, or as a localized “kingdom” in the lives of Christians, simply does not align with the historic confessions of Christianity. As clearly defined in the Westminster Confession of Faith XXV.II, it is the Church which is “the Kingdom of the Lord Jesus Christ, the house and family of God.”[42]

A commitment to Scriptural integrity immediately posits a tension between the family and the Church wherever the Scripture presents the Church itself as family. New Testament images of the Church as “the household and family of faith” abound. These allusions honor the Church’s identification with the Old Testament’s descriptions of the “House” of Israel, and “the community of the children of God,” where believers live as mutual “siblings” under God’s “parentage.”[43] The traditional familial images of the Church under God’s ruling paternity and husbandry are particularly grounded in the New Testament images of the Church as the bride of Christ.[44] Jesus extends the implications of God’s primary and original fatherhood in the lives of His people to the extent of urging the Pharisees “to call no one Father,” so relativized was human fatherhood in light of God’s “fatherhood.”[45] By extension of God’s fatherhood, the Epistle to the Hebrews depicts Jesus as the builder and superintendent of God’s “household” of believers,[46] a theme appropriated in I Peter to describe God’s discipline of His household on the model of the parental discipline prescribed in Proverbs.[47] Paul refers explicitly to the Christian’s mandate to labor for the collective good of “the family of (the) faith.”[48] I Peter also enjoins Christians to “love the family of believers,”[49] which is constituted by co-suffering “siblings.”[50] Ephesians refers clearly to the believer’s entrance into a new “family” at conversion.[51] The Epistles to Timothy establish the explicit link between Israel, “the household of God,” and the Church, the new community of Christ’s family: “I write these instructions to you so that you may know how to behave in the household of God, which is the Church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth.”[52]

Accordingly, St. Paul appropriates the radical Old Testament family language of Hosea 1 in his own discourse on basic Christian dogma and praxis in Romans 9: “where it was said to them ‘you are not my people,’ they shall be called children of the living God,”[53] a theme which Paul emphasizes again in the purity codes of II Corinthians 6: “come out from among them and be separate… and I will be your Father, and you shall be my sons and daughters.”[54] As children in common under the fatherhood of God, the author of John’s Gospel urges the new-formed Christian siblings, who are born of baptism, to merge into a unified community, welded together as distinct from the oppositional forces of the hostile world that was evident in all that was outside of the consecrated Christian community.[55]

In sum, Scripture offers a juxtaposition of two distinct families. First, according to nature and the construal of human society, we find the given reality of biological, patriarchially structed family life existing among all nations and cultures. In contrast, we also find the family of God’s consecrated people, assimilated by voluntary submission, anticipated in Israel, and gathered in response to Christ’s gospel by the Holy Spirit for service in the Church. In this way, Christians inhabit two political/social spheres at once. As a human person, the Christian inhabits the biological/covenantal family of his birth or marriage. As a baptized Christian, he also inhabits the consecrated family of Christ’s Church, the new Israel. The theological crux of the matter arises when each community claims sovereign authority over its members. Such claims will inevitably result in a competition of loyalties.

As Scripture clarifies, no man can serve two sovereign masters. Accordingly, Scripture provides that at the establishment of a new primary family by the covenant of marriage, former biological claims must in some sense be abandoned; the spouses “leave” father and mother to “cleave” to one another within their new, autonomous household.[56] In the same way, Scripture indicates that at the entrance of Christ’s preeminent family by the covenant of baptism, former biological claims must in some sense be abandoned; having been espoused to Christ in baptism, the Christian in a very real sense “leaves” father and mother in order to “cleave” in their primary loyalties to Christ and to the members of His household.

Of course, it could be argued that in the Biblical culture, the claims of the biological family were merely relativized by the claims of the newly formed marital household, and that extended family members retained a measure of authority even over their married descendants, as a “grandfather” community which indirectly superintended the newer household formed by marriage.[57] Thus, by analogy, the “grandfather authority” of the Church might be “mediated” into the life of the biological family by the sovereign father/parent. But here one must remember that the Christian rite of initiation into God’s new family is not essentially a marriage rite in the Biblical sense; rather in the language of Jesus and throughout the Epistles, the Christian’s rite of initiation into God’s family the baptismal sacrament of new birth. The Christian is “born again,” or “adopted,” into the family of the Church, thus to submit to its sovereign claims upon him.[58] Having been found in Christ, the Christian is a new creature, with new primary identities, loyalties, and primary family members. As Peter Selby puts it, “what happens, inevitably, is that the notion of ‘family’ as the key to membership and esteem (now) has to take second place to the new community of faith.”[59]

Thus we find necessary tensions between the bonds of the natural family, as over and against Jesus’ calling to a “community of voluntary commitment.” The Church is the sovereign community of those who are sent into a dangerous and alien world to bear witness, and as such, the Church invariably conflicts with the secular society characterized by stable, religious family ties.[60] Hauerwas puts it bluntly: “the first enemy of the family is Christ… (and although) the family in the U.S. is in trouble, a true theological understanding of the Christian family can only make things worse.”[61] Hauerwas continues that Christians become disciples of Jesus by the way of renunciation, which often involves the surrender of biological family life and affection.[62]

As Clapp puts it, Christianity simply does not permit us to put both Jesus and family first. Attempted dual loyalties become impossible when Scripture is read through the “lens” of Christ, such that we look back even to creation and God’s establishing and blessing of the biological family in light of Christ, and His example and commands.[63] Our understanding of the family must shift if we read the creation narratives by beginning with Jesus;[64] in Clapp’s words, “if Jesus comes before Genesis, then we must read the family’s creation in light of such commands as ‘whoever comes to me and does not hate his father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters, yes, even life itself, cannot be my disciple.’[65] The most family-friendly Biblical commentators are forced to agree that such passages relativize family loyalties in light of the Christian’s primary allegiance to Christ, and in light of the Christian’s his primary identification with those who follow the Christ who said "who are my mother and my brothers?"…whoever does God's will is my brother and sister and mother."[66]

In light of these Scriptural premises, positing the biological family as the basic, central locus of the Christian’s allegiance becomes highly problematic. The only suitable alternative is for Christians to construe their family life in light of the Church’s primacy. The Church is the only community that is uniquely called into being by Christ’s Gospel, sustained by His Spirit for the glory of the Father. The Church is the family which Christ forms uniquely for Himself, to be the community of persons that uniquely conforms to the triune life of God in the world.[67] As such, the Church constitutes an entirely new social reality in the fallen world, and offers a more authentic human community than the merely natural institutions of family and state; and only within this community may human beings, as created spiritual beings, be uniquely summoned to realize the full endowment of God’s grace.[68] Having been called into being by the radical Gospel of Christ, the Church is a much profounder witness to God’s grace than the naturally occurring human family;[69] and as such, the Church is by its very nature an alternative politic that re-defines and re-structures every order within it. The Church, as a community revealed to be more determinative than the biological family in God’s order, thus challenges family loyalties.”[70] As Jones puts it:

Hence, the Church is to be a community that has a different politics and polity from the dominating social worlds in which it is to exist… it is to be a community of freedom, living together in mutual love and peace under the sovereignty of the triune God… it is in this sort of community that creation itself is to be fulfilled.[71]


A Constructive Theology of the Church’s Family

"Though allegiance to God, His Christ, and His Kingdom precedes and relativizes the family, it certainly does not destroy it."[72]

The issue that remains is then how Christians ought to order their Christian families as basic political units in relation to the Church, which is become the Christian’s primary political unit. Having given ultimate allegiance to the Church, how should smaller communities of biological, affective, and covenantal allegiance be structured?

In light of revelation, the Christian worldview does not begin with the world in its givenness. Rather, the Christian worldview begins with the sef-disclosure of the living God, who providentially shapes the world for the glory of His Son. Christ is the one who rightly revises the world’s fallen natural orders; and He is the one who will consummate the world in its prepared destiny. Even the primordial paradise before the Fall, in which the family was instituted, waited in incompletion for Christ’s fulfilled glory. While pro-family theologians instinctively reach for those creation narratives shared among the world’s cultures to bolster their premise that family life is the ultimate destiny of humanity, an authentically Christian theology of the family must appropriate the specific revelation of the Triune God in Israel and in Jesus Christ for its construals. In the light of Christ, we find that God forms His people into His own family by calling them from among the families of the world, into the ecclesial community that constitutes the beginning of God’s new creation, and thus relativizes all former allegiances.

The first step in the Christian “revision” of the family is the acknowledgement that the Biblical prohibitions on idolatry forbid us to imagine God on our own terms. Christians cannot presume that our conceptions of God might be adequately derived from our experiences. God does not derive from us; rather, our very existence has its being as derived from His being, such that His self-revelation grounds our world. The Incarnation, the parenthood of God, and God’s founding of the Church as re-constituted human family become the models by which we understand ourselves and our families as merely analogous to His primary Being. Thus, given that the Church is God’s household and sanctified family, human families must be understood in relation to what God has renewed and re-formed from the former creation; in Christ, all things are made new. Hence, the Christian family must be understood as derived from the Church, the new family formed by God at Pentecost; it cannot be the other way around.[73]

As Clapp notes, Christians may freely agree with Aristotle that, contrary to the thinking of the fragmented world of postmodern hyper-individualism, persons are social animals.[74] It is both naturally necessary, and commanded by the God of Israel and the Church, that we should journey with our companions.[75] Given such essentials in the human person, in light of Jesus Christ (the Truth who revises all prior understanding), the Scriptures give us the Church as the central society of Christian life, the solely Christian polity in the fallen world.[76] Just as the Spirit hovered over the chaos of the primordial universe to form creation and its natural structures, the Spirit hovered over the small band at Pentecost to form the community that would bear Christ’s life into the fallen, chaotic world for its renewal. As such, the Church, in its Scriptures, community, and disciplines, becomes the true basis of all that is involved in the Christian life- including the Christian family.[77]

Obedience to God’s revelation- a disclosure so different from the world’s claims of primacy in the natural structures of family and state- demands practical revision. The Scriptures prescribe in particular that Christ’s revision of the biological family is to break open kinship boundaries according to the superceding, creative grace that invites all persons into familial union with God;[78] the New Testament language of the Church as family emphasizes the character of God’s transformation of primary relationships according to His grace.[79] Thus, recovering the “lost art” of the truly Christian family requires two radical declarations: first, that the family is not God’s most important institution on earth, nor the social agent that most significantly shapes and forms Christians; nor is the family the primary vehicle of God’s grace and salvation for the needy world.[80] Second, Christians must affirm positively that it is the Church that is God’s most important institution on earth, the social agent that produces and forms Christians for Christ, and the primary vehicle for God’s grace and salvation.[81] By extension, Christians must form their families as secondary institutions that are oriented to the service of the Church- God’s primary institution for the salvation of the world- in practice, and expendable for the Church in theory.[82] As Hauerwas puts it, Christians are called to be married and to form families for the upbuilding of the Church,[83] and those so called are presumed to accept the call and responsibility to have and care for their particular children in the name of the Church’s community.[84]

In short, as Hauerwas puts it, when faced with the marginalization of the family in secular society, Christians “cannot merely ‘do’ marriage and family; rather they must ‘do’ marriage and family faithfully.”[85] Only by deliberately forming family life in the service of Christ’s Church can Christians avoid the easy mistake of adopting the secular, enculturated insistence that “the family is central to what the Church means in this time between the times;”[86] on the contrary, Christians must, as Hauerwas puts it, at all costs avoid that temptation to forget their own best insights in justifying their distinctive, radical, witnessing practices on grounds that may appear more “natural” according to cultural contexts.[87] Such justification that would be inappropriate for the Christian appear clearly in Forum authors’ urging for increased birth rates among Christians in order to enhance “political influence.” Christians must be careful to recall that marriage and family life among Christians involves commitments not readily recognized by the rest of the world,[88] in as much as Christians are about the dangerous (and frequently socially unacceptable) business of following and witnessing to Jesus Christ.[89] Christians cannot forget that any other business can so easily become demonic and distorted.[90]

The first task of practically revising family theology is the renewal of the bankrupt evangelical Protestant ecclesiologies that would view “the Church of the living God, the pillar and ground of the truth” (I Timothy 3:15) as little more than a glorified neighborhood community center, to be used and exploited for its benefits to the nuclear family. The Rushdoonian language of “the local Church,” expendable for its constituency of local families, defies the essential Christian confessions of the Church universal, separated ultimately only by place, and mediating the power of God to command lives.[91] Modern evangelical Protestants must gird themselves up to adopt Luther and Calvin’s robust vision of Christ’s universal Church as the inauguration of His Kingdom in the earth, in which the family, on the model of God’s Kingdom in Israel, is regarded as expendable and enjoying merely relative value. Clapp points out that just as the Israelite family possessed significance because it represented the smallest unit of the holy nation of Israel, so the Israelite family was also expendable for the holy nation, which existed for God.[92] Rather than constituting various independent “sovereignties” within the nation, the Israelite households merely constituted particular instantiations of the larger community that witnessed to the sovereign God, the only King of the universe. In this way, God’s chosen community was determinative of the family (not the other way around!), and thus, the chosen community appropriately dictated the lives of its families for its own benefit. The family, as a political unit, was to be at the service of God by contributing to His larger community. The same attitude and behavior should characterize concepts of the Christian family as the smallest unit of Christ’s “holy nation,” the Church.

In clear opposition to these Biblical tenets, Forum author Abshire evidences a
bankrupt ecclesiology in stating:

Some may criticize the “patriarchs” for “idolatry” in elevating the family as the “center of life.” However, what IS the center of “life?” Granted, the sovereign Lord has ultimate claim to all our love, worship and service, but this God established the family as the basic element of community; it was not good for the man to be alone, so God created the family…. (and so) not even the Church is to take precedence over the father in lawfully governing his home.[93]

On the contrary, as the new Israel and the household of God, the Church is the Christian’s central social unit in the world; and as such, the Church properly exercises an ultimate claim on her families. God’s people will fail to respond in obedience to the reality of the Church’s claim on them if, due to inadequate ecclesiologies, they are lead to construe either the family or the nation as their determinative community. Both alternatives deny the lordship of Christ as enacted in the Church at Pentecost, and both alternatives will inevitably permit the nation to become the determinative community for the Christian; but the state’s secular stories and violent mission so readily usurps the life-shaping privilege that belongs only to Christ through His deputized community, the Church.

The human imagination loathes a vacuum, and in the absence of the Church’s Christ-centered polis under which to construe and structure the foundational unit of the family, even Christians will turn to the only alternative community available- the state. Historically, the state requires Christians to reduce their Christian commitments to merely “personal interests” or “private concerns” in the life of the individual, safely tucked away for public application in his “private” home life.[94] In the absence of corporate allegiance to the Church, modern evangelicals succumb to this relegation and over-emphasize the family as the only tolerable sphere of Christian life that they are “granted” in a secular culture. But the Gospel of Jesus Christ was not meant for such relegation. Rather, the Gospel is meant to be lived and enacted in the public, communal, political sphere of the Church, which stands for Christ among the nations, and defines what it means to be a family within its politic. In affirming the robustly Biblical doctrine of the Church as the all-encompassing Kingdom and family of God on earth, a universal community dispersed in its various homes[95] (rather than being construed as a mere “parallel” community outlet for the family), the Christian family can position itself in service to God’s purposes within their ultimate community;[96] the Christian family will become the Church’s family.

In particular, construing a revised theology of the Christian family will implicate the most critical points of tension between the Church and its families, particularly regarding the issue of vocations and parental prerogatives. The family’s construal of itself as the Church’s family requires parental submission to the duty to make their home the stimulating, nurturing environment for their children’s well-informed and broad exploration of vocation among the Church’s people, and according to the Church’s construal of the external world.[97] In as much as the Church is called into being for the benefit of the world in God’s saving plan, the Church’s family will raise its children to consider carefully all prospective occupations, without imposing limits according to secular expectation, or parental preference.[98] Parents will help their children to view potential occupations and vocations not as mere places that individual Christians happen to occupy, but as those places where the Church exists in its members, as they exist in and for the world.[99]

Thus the Christian family that accepts the sublime vocation of living as an extension of the Church’s mission will send their children into the world for service, and will preemptively resign their children to God’s personal calling to them as His own agents in the world. Given that the Christian parent hopes in the Resurrection and thus does not depend on his lineage to insure his after-life renown, and as he has found his own ultimate meaning in Christ, he can afford to relinquish any claim on the economic, emotional, or procreative resources of his children; and given that the Christian parent’s own personal vision and mission is conformed to the broader mission of the universal Church, the Christian parent does not need to retain his children to serve his own purposes.

Accordingly, all members of the Church’s family should be viewed in relation to their primary loyalty to God, thereby avoiding both a false anthropology and the idolatrous assumptions of radical patriarchy where “father is king.” The Christian faith, as attested by its martyrs and Scripture, proclaims that ultimately, only Christ is King. With regard to patriarchy, the New Testament household codes must then be read in light of the prior claim of Christ on the lives of wives and children.[100] The significant benefits of benevolent patriarchal structures cannot be embraced by modern evangelicalism without regard for family structures’ purpose within the Church; modern evangelicalism commits a grave error in the assumption that a father’s allegiance bends first to a program of dogged maintenance of “natural law” rather than to Jesus Christ.[101] Such allegiance is intolerable for the Christian, given that the God of the Bible is neither a philosophical construct nor an impersonal force to be cordoned off into our respective loci of morality.[102] As Yoder explains, the Christian person, united to God, is definitively liberated from every natural or ‘given’ form of subjection or alienation;[103] and this liberation from secular categories may be lived with propriety and charity within the borders of the Church.”[104]

It is only this light of Christian revision of the natural order that notions of patriarchy, whatever their benefits, may be tolerated or embraced by the Christian. Given that the new order of the Church is become the Christian’s own renewed lifestyle of loving missionary impact and creative transformation in the world, the Christian can freely embrace the givenness of her role in society on the model of Jesus’ own example of servanthood.[105] Knowing of a certainty that “in Christ there is neither male nor female, slave nor free,”[106] family members may persist in “voluntary subordination in the power of Christ, instead of bowing to it either fatalistically or resentfully,” as behooves the dignity of an agent of the servant Church within society.[107] Though the arbitrary mandates of a natural law model oppress spouses and children into “natural” roles (which can easily become predatory means of accommodating purely biological structures), the authority of Christ and the mission of the Church frees wives to obey and husbands to serve, children to trust, and parents to nurture for the sake of Christ, for the Church’s order, and for the benefit of the world.[108]

Furthermore, inasmuch as the Christian parent has renounced the pagan drive to produce heirs and generations to bear his name in the world in light of the Christian hope of the life in the world to come, the Christian family will prepare itself to affirm warmly any potential inclination to the traditionally prized vocation of celibacy as a great gift to the Church’s life.[109] As Hauerwas points out, such freedom to endorse the celibate state is due largely to the fact that Christians do not have to have children to be Christians, because the Gospel can be received by those who were not raised in it.[110] The Synoptics resound with the same account of Jesus’ statements on the transience of the married state relative to life in the heavenly Kingdom, as in Matthew 22:30, Mark 12:25, and Luke 20:35; furthermore, Jesus states that (resounding of Hauerwas’ derivation), though the Pharisees rejoice in their biological/ethnic inheritance, God is able “to raise up children for Abraham from these stones.” (Matthew 3:9, Luke 3:8) Accordingly, the Church’s family will form its children to regard the radical option of chaste celibacy as “the first way of life for a Christian, the practice necessary for the Church to participate in the hope secured through God’s cross, and in the embodiment of the hope that God’s Kingdom is both real and expected.”[111] Such familial affirmation of the celibate vocation accords with the apostles’ legitimation because of the Church’s recognized need to grow through witness and conversions dispersed among the nations, often by unmarried missionaries.[112]

In turn, it is only from this preferential affirmation of singleness as the vocation tending most immediately to the Church’s mission in the world should the Church’s parents form their children for vocations to family life. Rather than vacuously proclaiming marriage to be the “norm” on secular models of natural law’s deductions from biology, the Church’s family proceeds from a prior commitment to the Church’s mission in the world, which defines and warrants both married and single life.[113] Given that the Church is a community of persons called to follow Christ’s servant leadership at the expense of every “natural” accommodation, and at the expense of life itself, “the intelligibility of the Christian understanding of marriage makes sense only in relation to the early Church’s legitimization of singles.”[114]

Hauerwas is urgent on this point: if Christians genuinely entertain the joy and certainty of their faith and its promises of Heaven, pastors and parents must avoid the tendency simply to underwrite the broad assumption that marriage is (merely) a natural and primary context,[115] such that most Christians assume that marriage is the first mode of sexual life, whereas singleness remains to be justified.[116] Rather, Hauerwas urges that in witness to the Christian’s present affirmation of the life of the world to come, Christian marriage should be promoted not as a merely “natural” institution, but rather as a highly particularized vocation and sacrament, engaged by called persons, within a community of people who marry for the purpose of serving the Church.[117] The Church’s marriages should thus be construed as “heroic institutions,” prized for their service to the polity which authorizes and creates each marriage.[118]

Furthermore, the Church’s parents will prepare their children to answer God’s call to the utmost by raising them in a home construed not as “the father’s palace” nor as an intimate, private “haven” where private devotion may be cordoned off from the wily secular culture. Rather, the Church’s family operates its home as the Church’s missions base, open and expendable for witness through hospitality,[119] and, in its vigorous engagement with culture, as a vehicle for the Church’s properly public role in society.[120]

Most importantly, the Church’s family must order its life as a center for the Church’s catechesis of the Church’s children. Rather than construing the family dinner table as the podium for parental opinions, the Church’s parents will carefully defer to the Church’s teachings in their conversation, and will faithfully transmit them to their children out of regard for God’s (not the parents’) ultimate claim on their children’s hearts and minds.[121] The Church’s parents understand that their biological connection to their children merely allows for the immediate extensions of the Church’s teaching and nurturing ministry to their particular children.[122] This notion will express itself further in parents’ honoring single and widowed Christian adults as co-“parents” by employing their ministry as co-educators and caretakers for the Church’s children, in light of the single person’s shared parental office and responsibilities within the Church.[123]

Such practices will invariably shape construal and language about the Church, which is God’s primary social institution and the Christian’s primary family. In pastoral proclamation, an adequate theology of the family will require a revived and robust ecclesiology, grounded and explored within the rich resources of the Church’s historic confessions. The Church can shape its families self-construals particularly through instruction on baptism as the definitive “re-birth” of the convert into the new “family” and politic that uniquely embodies the life of Christ in the world. In this way, the Church’s baptismal vows are particularly critical to reclaiming a sense of the Church as the determinative community that properly re-invents the family; and an emphasis on baptism as the renunciation of all selfish claims that would inhibit total surrender to Christ, and as the affirmation of others’ surrender to Christ, must be applied to familial claims. Such emphasis will no doubt heighten awareness of the costliness of the Christian profession, and will enhance the convert’s awareness of the Church’s value and implications. If the demands of the Church are clearly explicated, it will be difficult for the Christian to view the Church as a domesticated “local community” existing at his personal disposal for personal benefit; rather, the Church and its teaching will be better understood as the requirement of the community, God’s institution for the salvation of the world, standing over and against the world’s “primary institutions” of coercive and sinful nations.

With this revised self-perception of its vocation in relation to families, the Church will be able to better care for its families, not least by requiring its members to renounce falsely sentimental illusions of family life. The Church can instead return the Christian family to the family’s traditional status of social, economic, and political function in support of the Church; and in raising the family’s self-awareness as the bearer of the Church’s traditions and practices, whose children are raised to be worthy of carrying forward the work of their ancestors in the faith.[124]

In sum, the Church’s deliberate revision of its sovereign vocation as God’s Family strengthens the human family by conferring an adequately Scriptural identity on its family units, by which those units may conform themselves to a healthy “higher purpose.” As Clapp readily acknowledge, “the family does need a purpose beyond itself to prosper,”[125] and as Selby agrees:

A larger project is in hand than making our family ‘work’- (though) that larger project turns out to contain resources for our life in families too- (they are) participation in God’s hope and forgiveness being enacted in the world… (and) those themes derive ultimately from an invitation to us to become people who transcend our descent: we are to become children of God.[126]

For Christ’s people, the higher purpose and organizing principle of their families must be Christ’s Church rather than the goals of violent nations, secular culture, or the self-interested family itself. As John Paul II concluded in Centessimus Annus, “though the totalitarian State tends to absorb the family within itself, the Church’s defense of her own freedom and identity in a disparaging culture enables the Church to defend the human person and families under her care in their mandate “to obey God rather than men.”[127]

Conclusion: Christian Family for the Sake of the Church.

The Church is the particular people called to witness and live true to the reality that Christ has come- that the Kingdom has come, that the world really has been changed.”[128] And because Christ’s advent changes and redscribes the entire world, the Kingdom’s coming creates terrible conflicts of allegiance, particularly with the biological family.[129] Scripture is clear that Christ has inaugurated a new family, and as God’s family, it must be both “new” and “first,” demanding primary allegiance that precedes and supercedes the family.[130]

This essay argues, in agreement with significant contemporary theologians concerned with the state of modern Christianity, that the Christian family is troubled not because of neglect from the Church, but because of an over-emphasis on the family that sentimentally exaggerates the family as an end in itself. Such construal thus posits a secular telos for the human family which does not accord with the Gospel, and which thus cannot survive the pressures of reality. To claim that the family is the ultimate point of reference for the Christian is untruth, and hence, tends to idolatry. Christ, the first and last Word of God, both precedes and supercedes the Genesis narrative of the creation of the human family; in as much as all things are to be conformed to His Gospel, the Christian family is also subject to revision in order submit to the preeminent claims of Christ.[131]

Christ in no way merely endorses the fallen, anguished world and its structures as is, but calls the world and its natural structures to what they can ultimately become in Him; and this calling of the world, from the present to its destiny, as uttered by Christ’s people gathered on His behalf in the Church, will involve a tension between natural structures and the demands of the Christian’s particular commission. The Church is radically different from the created world because the Church, in its origin and consecration to holiness, uniquely belongs to God.

The unique sanctity of the Church, the family of God, relativizes the biological family and calls the biological family to submit its own identity and structures to those of God’s family, the superceding community of the believers. There will no doubt be reluctance to do so. As Hauerwas recounts, Adam Smith’s Theory of Moral Sentiments warns that the existence of “a strong external community” weakens family ties when sympathies and structures outside the family enable cooperation for human flourishing beyond the bounds of biological kinship. It is in this spirit that Jesus exhorts us that His primary family is not composed by those who share His genetics, but by those who share in His obedience. Thus there can be no doubt that Jesus in some way displaces the biological family, such that family can no longer be the paramount loyalty for those who follow Him.[132]

For modern American evangelicals, schooled carefully to read theological meaning into our nation’s imitation of the Roman Republic’s political structures, the proposal of the Church as primary community may seem dangerously communitarian, or worse yet, “socialist.” Indeed, as Hauerwas admits, for the Church to enact the social ethic of Christ in the world, Christians must re-capture the social significance of common behavior and dependencies. Communal identity becomes especially significant regarding the formation of families, since communal trust becomes impossible when separate kinship communities regard other kinship groups as a challenge and threat to their existence; one of the most profound commitments of a community, therefore, is providing a context that encourages us to trust and depend on one another.[133]

For the Christian, it is Christ and His mission, not personal property, nor personal freedoms, nor individual autonomy, nor familial rights that are the center of Christian life, and the bond with Christ takes precedence over all other bonds, whether familial or social.[134] Given such all-encompassing, real demands, the Christian is called to relinquish all facets of his life and identity for the all-encompassing claims of the community that Christ inaugurated and authorized to carry His presence into the world by word and sacrament. As Rushdoony acknowledges, it is the sign of that which opposes God to diminish the Church and to cause it to disappear through a “dismantling” of its structures and community: “the purpose of the synagogue of Satan is thus to make the Church invisible in the sense of being non-existent as a Church, and the state visible as the true order of man.”[135] Furthermore, as Jones so clearly states:

Our steadfast refusal to put any common and shared conceptual “meat” on the mantra of ‘Jesus Christ is Lord’ is at the heart of the widespread disarray and even discouragement in our tradition today. Our discourses and therefore also our practices in regard to Jesus are in chaotic discord. This leaves us vulnerable to having the center of our faith occupied by idols of the moment… When the discourses and practices of the Church are in disarray, then we can also conclude that the way its members construe themselves, construe Jesus, and construe the world, may be in stark contrast to how the NT and the early Church traditions have construed Jesus and the reality of God and the destiny of the world.”[136]

In conclusion, I suggest that the dangers that threaten the modern family, as so acutely perceived by modern evangelicals, are not primarily the dangers presented by the culture without. Rather, the Christian family is threatened by bankrupt ecclesiologies that would replace empty household gods for the will of the living God in the historical, Scriptural establishment of His Church as the primary community of the believer, “the pillar and ground of His truth.” An over-emphasis of the family results in an inflated, hollow, household idol which neither leads the person into his destiny in Christ nor effectively enacts Christ’s radical, transforming mission of conversion in the world; and this over-emphasis is the result of denying rightful allegiance to the Church as that Kingdom wherein Christ is Lord, while instead turning anxious eyes to the nation for ultimate, saving meaning for ourselves and our families. The family itself can lend no intrinsic meaning for the Christian; for all its worth, dignity, and sanctity, the Christian family is nonetheless a universal institution, at home as the basic unit of any given human society, however appropriated and theologized according to Christian presuppositions.[137]

In that very action of appropriation and definition of the family according to Christian theology, the family becomes the Church’s family; one has only to consider conservative evangelical striving to maintain heterosexual, monogamous, chaste marriages as the national cultural “norm” for evidences that the Christian community has claimed the family for its own, and presented it to the world as the model on which all other human families were meant to be formed. Christians believe that this is as it should be. How then, given that evangelicals have tacitly accepted that the family is to be lived according to the Church’s understanding, thereby granting that the family is created and governed by the Church to some extent, then retreat back to the family as “fundamental political unit,” possessed of an independent “sovereignty” that flies in the face of the Church’s sovereign authority?[138]

Unqualified patriarchy, given its assumption of the father’s autonomous and ultimate authority, inevitably conflicts with the Church’s claims of ultimate authority over its people. I argue that potential reconciliation between the claims of the family and the Church requires a renewed self-identification of the Christian family as the foundational unit of the Church, existing by and for the Church, and expendable for the Church. This identity and practice are comprised in the notion of the “Church’s family.” As Clapp urges, the Christian family exists at the pleasure of the Church; it is for her own sake as Christ’s witnessing Body that the Church solemnizes Christian marriages and accepts both offspring and converts to her ritual of re-birth into Christ. Christian families should behave accordingly, even though revised behavior in light of the Church’s ultimate prerogatives may mean toppling the housed gods that formerly promised social power and political identity. Revised behavior in the Church’s family requires the replacing of that which is “natural” with that which is “right,” as Christ has revealed it. I conclude with Rodney Clapp’s summary:

…For Christians this is no surprise. We in fact expect that families and states will not even know what is ultimately good or natural for them unless, in the life of the Church, they hear and see the story of the Kingdom come. Our confession is that the good and the true are revealed through the particular story of Israel and Jesus Christ. So we cannot understand family apart from our confession, which is our story. We must resort explicitly to that story to “explain” family and our hopes for family…as Christians we affirm that all that is true and real about family is finally revealed in Jesus Christ and the Kingdom He inaugurated. …(because of the Fall) we often fail to see what is best for ourselves and for the world. But we do see Jesus. Only be seeing Jesus and all that He means can we begin to build “natural” families, families that serve the one and final reality, which we call the Kingdom of God. With this understanding, this vision of what is real and true, we cannot affirm that the hope of the world rests in the bosom of the biological or nuclear family… the hope of the world is Jesus Christ, and the people called to bear witness to that hope is a people drawn from all families and nations. It is the Church.[139]

Endnotes

[1] Joe R. Jones, On Being the Church of Jesus Christ in Tumultuous Times (Eugene: Cascade Books, 2005), p. 172.
[2] Joe R. Jones, Grammer of Christian Faith II (New York: Rowman &Littlefield Publishers Inc., 2002), p. 657.
[3] Stanley Hauerwas, “The Radical Hope of the Annunciation: Why Both Single and Married Christians Welcome Children,” The Hauerwas Reader (Durham: Duke University Press, 2001): 511.
[4] “Rodney Clapp has quite simply written the best book we have on the family by a Christian theologian. Challenging both mainstream and Protestant liberal accounts of the family, Clapp shows how the family has to be reconfigured in terms of the basic theological convictions of the Christian Church.” Stanley Hauerwas, Review of Families at the Crossroads. Rodney Clapp, Families at the Crossroads: Beyond Traditional and Modern Options (Downers Grove: InterVarsity Press, 1993).
[5] Clapp, Families 10, 11.
[6] Clapp, Families 68.
[7] John Rousas Rushdoony, The Foundations of Social Order: Studies in the Creeds and Councils of the Early Church (Prebyterian and Reformed Publishing Company, 1968), qtd. Clapp, Families 68.
[8] Hauerwas, Radical Hope 511.
[9] Jones, Church 176.
[10] Clapp, Families 224.
[11] Clapp, Families 12.
[12] Clapp, Families 12.
[13] Joe Jones also cites Matthew 10:6, Luke 1:33, 69; Acts 2:36 and 7:42; Hebrews 3:2-6; I Peter 4:17; Galatians 6:10; Ephesians 2:19; I Timothy 3:15; I Peter 4:17; Romans 9:26; II Corinthians 6:16-18; Hebrews 2:10; I Peter 2:17 and 5:9; I Corinthians 6:5; I John 3:10-17; Matthew 23:8; John 3:29; Revelation 19:7-9; II Corinthians 11:2-4; Ephesians 5:21-32. Jones posits this tension in terms of the “dialectic” between the Church and the world in these words: “if we accept that the “the Church essentially exists in the mission of witness to the reality of the triune God for the benefit of the world,” such that the Church is in the world though not of it, we anticipate a dynamic tension and irreducible tension between the Church and the world, because the Church is an empirical group of persons gathered in community comprised of distinct discourses and practices and construal of the world in terms of itself; the Church is always a comprehensive and particular culture and society (a subculture) within and different from the larger culture, society, and world. The Church is a visible social group with its own distinct structure of relationships, and thus lives through its own distinctive discourses and practices, thereby maintaining a distinct identity in differentiation from other prevalent groups and identities in the world of the Church’s various social locations. The Christian within the Church has a distinctive moral and spiritual life in differentiation from the surrounding social worlds, and thereby inquires as to what is truly Christian in practices.” Jones, Grammar 600.
[14] Jones, Grammar 600. See also Col 4:15, Philemon 2.
[15] Theologian Peter Selby emphasizes that it has always been the missionary purpose of the Church that have grounded and determined the basis for “fellowship” within the Church. James D.G. Dunn, “The Household Rules in the New Testament”; Peter Selby, “Is the Church a Family?”; Carol Harrison, “The Silent Majority: the Family in Patristic Thought,” The Family in Theological Perspective, ed. Stephen C. Barton. (Edinburgh: T&T Clark, 1996): 87- 169.
[16] Hauerwas urges for such a perspective of Christian family life as “derived” from the primary community of the Church in terms of marriage, the bedrock of the family: “Accordingly, the love required of Christians even in marriage imitates that love discovered (first) through our brothers and sisters in Christ. Therefore, marriage is not for Christians where we learn what love is about; rather marriage is made possible for Christians because we have been loved by God. Hauerwas, “Sex in Public,” Reader 225.
[17] Mr. Doug Phillips, The Vision Forum. My acquaintance with this and other affiliated and sympathetic institutes and schools of thought is indebted in large part to the work of Mrs. Jesse Paine and her online publication “Biblical Womanhood.” Crystal Paine, Biblical Womanhood Blog, http://www.biblicalwomanhoodonline.com/blog.htm (November 2005-May 2006).
[18] Doug Philips, Forum, Tenets of Biblical Patriarchy 2, http://www.visionforumministries.org/home/about/biblical_patriarchy.aspx (March 2007).
[19] “While one cannot really yet call it a “movement”, the term “patriarchy” has made a return describing an attempt to develop a counter-cultural model of the Christian family and by extension, a just Christian social order.” The link between an idealized patriarchal family structure and a desirable social order is further explained as follows: “Now what has all this to do with reforming the Christian family and evaluating ‘Patriarchy?’ In effect, Western civilization was a ‘patriarchy’ up until recent times and assumed as the normal means of governing not only households, but also entire nations. The English proverb ‘every man’s home is his castle’ represents the cultural assumption, handed down from antiquity, that the father, as head of his household, WAS the federal representative of his own family to the broader community.” Brian M. Abshire, Forum, Biblical Patriarchy and the Doctrine of Federal Representation, http://www.visionforumministries.org/sections/hotcon/ht/family/patriarchyfederal.asp (May 2006): 1-10.
[20] Abshire, Patriarchy 5.
[21] Abshire, Patriarchy 3.
[22] “Christian fathers cannot escape the jurisdiction of Church and state and must be subject to both.” (Cited also Rom. 13:1ff.; Eph. 5:21; 6:4; Heb. 13:17; 1 Pet. 2:13ff.) See also Matt. 16:19; 18:18; Acts 4:19; 5:29; 25:11; Heb. 13:17; 1 Pet. 2:13ff.; Eph. 1:22-23; 1 Tim. 3:15. Philips, Patriarchy 7.
[23] “Since the educational mandate belongs to parents and they are commanded personally to walk beside and train their children, they ought not to transfer responsibility for the educational process to others. However, they have the liberty to delegate components of that process. While they should exercise great caution and reserve in doing this, and the more so the less mature the child, it is prudent to take advantage of the diversity of gifts within the body of Christ and enjoy the help and support that comes with being part of a larger community with a common purpose. (1 Cor. 12:14ff.; Gal. 4:1,2; 6:2; Eph. 4:16). The age-integrated communities of family and Church are the God-ordained institutions for training and socialization and as such provide the preferred pattern for social life and educational endeavors. Philips, Tenets, 19-20.
[24] “Only as a man demonstrates “domestic competence” in his own home is he then authorized by God to minister to the broader community (I Tim 3:1ff, Titus 3:5ff).” Abshire, Patriarchy 8.
[25] “Few Christian fathers even know how to begin the process of shepherding their children and leading their families in the ways of God…A husband and father is the head of his household, a family leader, provider, and protector, with the authority and mandate to direct his household in paths of obedience to God. (Gen. 18:19; Eph. 6:4). The biblical patriarch thus assumes personal responsibility for teaching his wife and children; out of his secret worship, meditating on the Divine Word, (Josh 1:8) God equips him to minister to his entire household through family worship (Deut 6:4ff). Furthermore, as the federal “head” of his family, he adjudicates disputes, resolves problems and maintains justice in the home.” Abshire, Patriarchy 5. In this way, Forum authors represent an evangelical appropriation of ecclesial roles and functions clearly designated as the prerogative of the Church in Scripture, to the household father. Cf Matthew 18.
[26] Additional practices incumbent on the Christian home and directed by the father include home education- because, “as R.J. Rushdoony has pointed out, “education is inescapably a religious discipline.” Thus Vision Forum proposes that “any approach to Christian education ought to recognize and facilitate the role of fathers and mothers as the primary teachers of their children. (Deut. 4:9; 6:6ff.; Ps. 78:3-8; Prov. 1:8; Eph. 6:4) Philips, Tenets 6.
[27] Contemporary Roman Catholic statements also affirm the family as “the basic political unit” in dialectic with the Church. John Paul II states that the family and political community serve related purposes in accommodating the “innermost nature” of the human social creature: “human being’s social nature makes it evident that the progress of the human person and the advance of society hinge on one another…. The social life is not (merely) something added on to the human being.” Pope Paul VI, Pastoral Constitution on the Church in the Modern World Gaudium et Spes (The Vatican: December 7, 1965.) n. 25, p.180. John Paul II notes further that the Christian view of society recognizes that “the social nature of man is not completely fulfilled in the State, but is realized in various intermediary groups, beginning with the family…the first and fundamental structure for "human ecology" is the family, in which man receives his first formative ideas about truth and goodness, and learns what it means to love and to be loved, and thus what it actually means to be a person.” Pope John Paul II, Centesimus Annus 39 (The Vatican: May 1, 1991). In this way, John Paul calls the Church to view the family “as the sanctuary of life… the family is indeed sacred: it is the place in which life, the gift of God, can be properly welcomed and protected.” Ibid 39.
[28] “The nature of the family derives from the most part from social necessity… we form families because our parents, Church, and nation tell us to… and they tell us to form (families) because they serve the family line, the mission of the Kingdom, or the survival of the state.” Clapp, Families 44.
[29] In particular, Forum authors cite the following: the speeches of Quintus Macedonicus (131 B.C.), who called for stronger family life as “a plan for Rome’s lasting preservation;” the fact of the historical changes changes resulting from the agricultural revolution’s transformation of population into power in rural tribal cultures; the orations of the Greek King Pyrrhusin (3rd century BC), who called for larger families when his Greek armies were defeated by the Romans, “who by then were procreating far more rapidly than were the Greeks, (and) kept pouring in reinforcements;” and the admission of Polybius (140 B.C) that “in our time all Greece was visited by a dearth of children and a general decay of population,” as linked to consequent Roman domination. Philip Longman, “The Return of Patriarchy,” The New American Foundation, Spring 2006. http://www.foreignpolicy.com (March/April 2006): 8.
[30] Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 151-169.
[31] Carol Harrison here cites Cicero, On Duties I, 17, 54. Harrison notes that Augustine stressed a similar theme in the City of God XIX, where he emphasizes the role of the paterfamilias in “securing peace in the state by maintaining peace by just government of his household according to the rules of the state.” Harrison, Family in Theological Perspective 89.
[32] Longman, Return of Patriarchy 1.
[33] “Patriarchy, for as long as it (can) be sustained, (is) the key to maintaining population and, therefore, power.” Longman, Return of Patriarchy 1.
[34] Longman, Return of Patriarchy 2.
[35] Longman, Return of Patriarchy 5.
[36] “Under patriarchy, “bastards” and single mothers cannot be tolerated because they undermine male investment in the next generation. Illegitimate children do not take their fathers’ name, and so their fathers, even if known, tend not to take any responsibility for them. By contrast, “legitimate” children become a source of either honor or shame to their fathers and the family line.” Longman, Return of Patriarchy 9.
[37] Longman, Return of Patriarchy 9.
[38] Longman, Return of Patriarchy 7.
[39] Longman here laments that “even with a fertility rate near replacement level, the United States lacks the amount of people necessary to sustain an imperial role in the world, just as Britain lost its ability to do so after its birthrates collapsed in the early 20th century.” Longman, Return of Patriarchy 6. There could be no clearer disjuncture between the Christian view of the family as the servant of Christ and the demonic abuse of the family as a means to domination; though the world might hold that one’s interests in one’s family might seem to justify hostility towards the enemy as being lives forfeitable and expendable for the sake of other lives nearer to our own, people rooted in Christ are commanded to construe the apparent enemies “as those for whom Christ lived and died and for whom He was raised.” Jones, Grammar 173-174.
[40] Longman, Return of Patriarchy 10.
[41] Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 498.
[42] Westminster Confession XXV.II, qtd. Rushdoony, Foundations 179. The Vision Forum interprets this statement as allowing that “family, Church, and state are parallel institutions, each with real but limited authority in its ordained sphere;” and, “as the keeper of the keys of Christ’s kingdom, the Church is the central and defining institution of history…every Christian father and family ought to be a submitted and committed part of a local Church, subject to the authority and discipline of the Church through its elders.” (Heb. 10:24-25; 13:17) Philips, Forum, Tenets 7-9.
[43] There are over one hundred forty- six descriptions of Israel as “the house of God” in the Old Testament, located in the books of Exodus, Leviticus, Numbers, Joshua, Ruth, I and II Samuel, I Kings, Psalms, Isaiah, Jeremiah, Ezekiel, Hosea, Amos, Micah, and Zechariah. These references are affirmed in the New Testament’s mention of “the House of Israel” in Matthew 10 and 15, Acts 7, and Hebrews 8. Such notions are inextricably linked to notions of a familial relationship between Israel, the consecrated nation, and God particularly in Hosea, where God’s persistence on behalf of His unfaithful people is “justified” on account of His kinship/spousal/parental relationship to them; in Amos 3, God describes Israel as His own particular family, selected from among the “families” of the earth; and in Isaiah 63, God is invoked as the “father” of His collective people. Furthermore, Abraham is described as the collective father from whom all the Israelites derive their genealogy/ethnic/religious identity under the Father God (Malachi 2; Genesis 17, 32, 48; Exodus 3 and 4; Deuteronomy 1, 6, 9, 29; Joshua 24; and I Chronicles). These references to Israel as a collective “family” under the father Abraham are affirmed in the NT references of Matthew 3, Luke 1 and 16, John 8, Acts 3 and 7, James 2, and are powerfully cited by Paul when referring to the Christian’s new, primary spiritual family in Christ in Romans 4).
[44] The nuptial imagery for the Church, and by extension as applying to the individual believers within the Church exploits every relational image of patriarchal structures incumbent on the believer, and thus undermines those structures as they exist in secular forms; not only does the Church and her members have a new “Father” by their conversion but also a new betrothed “husband”- in this way, all claims to familial authority are taken up by Christ. CF also, John 3:29, Revelation 19:710; II Corinthians 11:2-4; Ephesians 5:21-32.
[45] Matthew 23:8.
[46] Hebrews 3:1-6
[47] I Peter 4:17.
[48] Galatians 6:10
[49] I Peter 2:17.
[50] I Peter 5:9. The sense of sibling relationship among believers in the Church is appropriated again by the interchangeability of the terms for “believer” and “brother” in the I Corinthians 6 injunction against lawsuits between Church members.
[51] Ephesians 2:19-22: “So then you are no longer strangers and sojourners, but you are citizens with the saints and members of the household of God… in (Christ) the whole structure is joined together and grows into a holy temple in the Lord, in whom you are also built together spiritually into a dwelling place for God.”
[52] I Timothy 3:14-15.
[53] Romans 9:26.
[54] II Corinthians 6:18. Hebrews 2:10 corroborates that God will bring many “children” to glory through Christ.
[55] I John 3:10-17
[56] Genesis 3 and Ephesians 5.
[57] As Forum authors elaborate: “furthermore, biblical patriarchy understands that as sons and daughters mature and get married, they form NEW covenant relationships that supersede their previous households (Gen 2:24). Godly marriage requires a transition of authority from the father, to the son. There is still a family relationship; albeit a transformed one. In pre-industrial cultures wherein most economic activity was family based, the setting up of these new households did not negate the broader family relationships; often sons continued working with and for their fathers. This meant that the “grandfather” retained SOME authority (as the head of the family business) while recognizing the legitimate family authority of his sons over their own households.” Abshire, Patriarchy 7.
[58] Selby notes that the “rebirth” which Jesus requires of Nicodemus would have been thought to have literally changed his line of descent; “so the source of his membership in the community of God’s people is changed from human descent to spiritual descent. This is also the effect enacted for all believers when they are baptized into the family of faith, which is God’s “house,’ that is, God’s lineage.” Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 165. In Selby’s thought, this rebirth is no mere analogy, but would have been understood as the total transformation of natural loyalties and intimacies in God’s new “clan.” Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 165: “this very quickly goes beyond a mere method of explanation, an analogy to help people understand. Were it just that, it might simply be replaced by other analogies in other cultures…. But it (emerges not to commend present loyalties) but to offer a transformation of those loyalties that people naturally have. Natural loyalties may be determined by the boundaries of kinship, but not so with the new clan God is creating: Whoever does the will of God is my (parent and sibling.)” Ibid.
[59] Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 166.
[60] New Testament scholar James G. Dunn lists the Scriptures which indicate Jesus’ “disparaging” of family ties in Mark 3, Matthew 8 and 10, and Luke 9 and 14. Family in Theological Perspective, 55. See also John Howard Yoder, The Politics of Jesus (Grand Rapids: Eerdmans, 1994), p. 68.
[61] Stanley Hauerwas, “Family Grace: The Christian Family and the Difference it Can Make for the American Family,” Grace Upon Grace: Essays in Honor of Thomas A. Langford (Nashville: Abingdon, 1999): 65.
217. Hauerwas goes on to explain that the American family is in so much “trouble” precisely because it is so celebrated, qua American’s “clinging to it desperately;” Hauerwas attributes such devotion to an overly idealized account of the family as the place where persons “receive and learn affection”; given the diminution of reliance on kinship and strengthening of sympathy between strangers in an organized, capitalist society, the family is “reduced” to the interpersonal and psychological role of a sentimental, romanticized haven for affective development, an expectation which the family is not able to meet. Hauerwas, Family Grace 223. Hauerwas continues in another essay: … “the very celebration of the family- the fact that Americans so desperately cling to the family as our anchor in the storms of life- is but an indication of the trouble in which the American family finds itself. The more we are forced to make the family the end-all and be-all of our existence, the more the family becomes a problem not only for American society generally, but more particularly for Christians. Hauerwas, “Radical Hope” Reader 507. Clapp follows suit: “Stripped of economical and political functions, the bourgeois family concentrates on the only thing left to it: affection. (But) our expectations of family warmth are often stretched to the point of being utopian. We can rather easily sentimentalize family and imagine it to be something far rosier than anything we actually experience.” Clapp, Families 36.
[62] Hauerwas, “The Peaceable Kingdom,” Reader 125. Cf Matthew 10:37.
[63] "One of the marks of the Church's heritage is that it sees movements within the canonical story, and therefore a difference between the Testaments. Instead of a timeless collection of parabolic anecdotes for allegorical application, or of propositional communications ready for deductive exposition, the Bible is a story of promise and fulfillment that must be read directionally. The New Testament, by affirming the Hebrew Scriptures that the Christians have come to call the Old Testament, also interprets them. ...Abraham and Moses are to be read through Jesus and Paul." John Howard Yoder, The Priestly Kingdom: Social Ethics as Gospel (South Bend: University of Notre Dame Press, 1985), p. 59.
[64] “For Christians, the primary creation account is not Genesis, but the first chapter of the Gospel of John. There Genesis’s opening words are directly quoted, only to be modified in light of Christ: In the beginning… was the Word. (John 1:1) There we learn that “all things came into being” through the Word and that the Word became flesh and lived among us,” bearing the name of Jesus.” Clapp, Families 68.
[65] Clapp, Families 69.
[66] Mark 3: 33- 35.
[67] Jones, Grammar 609. Jones adds that “the grammar of the Church as a called community contains some important denials: (a) the Church does not call itself into existence—it is has a Lord and Savior; (b) the Church is not a self-constituting democratic reality which gives itself its own marching orders and direction; and (c) the Church is not called by the world. Whenever these denials are forgotten or overlooked, the Church in its concrete life mutes the power of its distinct calling in Jesus Christ.” See also Joe R. Jones, “A Grammar of Christian Faith Bearing on The Church and Political Theology,” (Unpublished Course Document, Yale Divinity School, 2006), p. 5.
[68] Jones, Grammar 609.
[69] Hauerwas, “Family Grace” Reader 218.
[70] Hauerwas, “Family Grace” Reader 224.
[71] Jones, Grammar 609.
[72] Clapp, Families 77.
[73] “(From God’s revelation) emerges not an image by which to convey the truth, but a truth that radically changes the image: for the message of Ephesians 3:15, (for instance, “… the God and Father of all, from whom his whole family in heaven and on earth derives its name,”) is not that by reference to our experience of life in families we are able to understand our relationship with God. It is (rather) that our membership of family has to take its meaning and shape from what has emerged about our relationship with God, “from whom all fatherhood derives its name. In the light of God’s ‘fatherhood,’ and the fraternity and sorority that turned out to be God’s human project, family patterns have to be re-examined. Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 166. Although such notions as those of the “domestic Church” are based on thought as ancient as that of John Chrysostum- who emphasized the well-run Christian family as a “little Church” making up the wider Church- the sense of the family’s existence as called into being by the Church, and oriented towards the Church’s service can still remain unhindered. Chrysostum, Homily on Ephesians 5, qtd, Harrison, Family in Theological Perspective 89.
[74] Clapp, Families 24.
[75] Clapp, Families 25.
[76] Clapp, Families 25.
[77] Clapp, Families 25.
[78] “Those who have to be addressed as two separate groups in Paul’s addressing Antioch (‘my brothers who are of Abraham’s family, and you others who fear God,’ Acts 13) are able to become newly related as “brothers and sisters” under the God who breaks down every wall.” (Ephesians 3), qtd. Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 164.
[79] Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 165.
[80] For corroboration in a separate tradition, we note that the Roman Catholic Catechism points out that “from the beginning of Christian history, the assertion of Christ’s lordship over the world and over history has implicitly recognized that man should not submit his personal freedom in an absolute manner to any earthly power, but only to God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ; Caesar is not “Lord.” The Church believes instead that the keys and center and purpose of humanity’s history is to be found (only) in its Lord and Master.” Catechism of the Catholic Church. 450 (New York: Image Publishing, 1995).
[81] Clapp, Families 68.
[82] The notion of the “expendability” and relativization of the family for the sake of God’s Kingdom finds its grounding not only in the calling of Jesus Christ on point (Matthew 10:35-37, Matthew 12:46-50, Matthew 19:29, Matthew 3:31-35, Matthew 22:30, Mark 10:29-30, Mark 12:25, Luke 2:48-52, Luke 8:19-21, Luke 12:51-53, Luke 20:35, John 19:27), but also in the obedience of ancient Israel as the over-arching family for whose sake individual families were formed. As we find in the expulsion of foreign wives in Ezra 10, the death of progeny according to God’s wager in Job, and the Levitical commands to put insubordinate children to death for violation of the national religious law, the natural family exists at the pleasure of God’s consecrated community, and is maintained only according to the mission of that community. It is in that spirit that we find the apostles responding to questions about family life and granting their permissions, prohibitions, and qualifications as the leaders of the Church. It is also in this spirit that we find the implicit question about the propriety of marriage for Christians posed to Paul in I Corinthians 7, to which Paul responds with a highly qualified evaluation of the merits and disadvantages of family life; as the German historian and philosopher Oswald Spengler noted on trends in family life, “when the ordinary thought of a highly cultivated people begins to regard ‘having children’ as a question of pro’s and con’s, the great turning point (in views of the family) has come. Paul’s evaluation of the family life, not in terms of divine mandatum, but in terms of “pro’s and con’s” in light of the needs of the Church could be no clearer: the testimony of Jesus Christ had undone the prior data of family life and had radically relativized its commitments relative to commitments to Himself.
[83] Hauerwas, “Family Grace” Reader 224.
[84] Hauerwas, “Family Grace” Reader 227.
[85] Hauerwas, “Radical Hope” Reader 506.
[86] Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 502.
[87] Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 502.
[88] Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 502.
[89] “It is the practices of witnessing to the reality of God that can be characterized as the being- in acts of the Church’s actuality.” Jones, Grammar 619.
[90] Jones summarizes thus: “(Christians) must take seriously these questions or we will be forever a Church dominated by its surrounding culture in ways similar to the way the Church has allowed itself to be dominated by other national cultures…. But we do think that we are a people created by Jesus Christ, and that very self-designated fact about our language and Scriptures is an awesome challenge to our inclinations to adopt and hold other human points of views.” Jones, Grammar 620. See also Hauerwas, “Family Grace” Reader 218.
[91] References to the “catholic,” universal, and authoritative Church which made its way into the first creeds can be found in their earliest form in the writings of Ignatius of Antioch, AD 105-115. Furthermore, we find the following language in the Westminster Confession XXV.I-III- I: “…the catholic or universal Church, which is invisible, consists of the whole number of the elect, that have been, are, or shall be gathered into one, under Christ the head thereof; and is the spouse, the body, and the fullness of Him that filleth all in all.” Ibid.
II. The visible Church, which is also catholic or universal under the gospel (not confined to one nation as before under the law), consists of all those throughout the world that profess the true religion, together with their children; and is the Kingdom of the Lord Jesus Christ; the house and family of God, through which men are ordinarily saved and union with which is essential to their best growth and service. Ibid.
III. Unto this catholic and visible Church, Christ hath given the ministry, oracles, and ordinances of God, for the gathering and perfecting of the saints, in this life, to the end of the world; and doth by his own presence and Spirit, according to his promise, make them effectual thereunto. Ibid.
[92] Clapp refers in particular to the nation’s complete control over the disposal of a father’s children in light of national obligations, and also to the laws that required the death of children for abrogation of religious laws. (Ibid) CF Genesis 22, Judges 11:34-40, Deuteronomy 13:6-9, Exodus 21:7-11, Leviticus 19:29. Clapp, Families 37.
[93] Abshire, Patriarchy 3.
[94] Clapp, Families 50.
[95] Dunn points out the significance of the home to the Church as the situation of most early Church gatherings within wealthy urban households: “”the earliest Churches were all house Churches and the model of a well ordered household could also serve as a model of a well ordered congregation.” Dunn, Family in Theological Perspective 56. Furthermore, Dunn continues, the Household Codes should be read in context as serving as means of witness to the wider society: “the household codes were attempts to codify the rules which had been found most effective in promoting social welfare and stability… to indicate that Christian discipleship could be supportive of society’s ‘basic structures…. (for) witness bearing, both facilitating communication with the rest of the society, and making possible an evangelistic impact.” Dunn, Family in Theological Perspective 57. Here we see the New Testament writers construing basic household structures of convenience for the service of the Church’s mission, “concern for the well ordered household as an integral part of being the Church and of effective witness to the wider community.” Ibid.
[96] Here I refer to the principle that Abshire sets forth: that fathers are uniquely situated to determine the best calling for their sons, and may indeed rightly do so, and that his daughters ought to be dissuaded from “expensive higher education,” since “a simple examination of the birth rates for professional women shows that the more highly educated a women becomes, the LESS likely she is to get married and the LESS likely to have children. Thus, this writer is actually encouraging brilliant Christian women to take a course of action that will mean cutting off their genetic inheritance for future generations! We do not need MORE female Christian lawyers, doctors or artists, but MORE godly women raising MORE godly children who will fill the earth and subdue it to the glory of God. And does it really make economic sense to invest tens of thousands of dollars for a woman to get an advanced education (often having to go into debt to finance that education) that she will NOT use if she accepts that her highest calling is to be a wife and mother? Abshire, Patriarchy 4. For a Christian perspective on vocational considerations, and parental influence over the young person’s personal responsibility before God, I offer Selby’s statement: “The Church claims to set before its families an even larger project. Having born children, families are invited to present them for baptism; having fed them, to teach their children to pray; having given them the best upbringing they know how, at the same time to place themselves alongside their children in the community that is subject to God’s word and exists by God’s nourishment.” Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 167.
[97] Here I adopt Jones’ designation of “vocation” as “those imperatives of living which the individual, as a member of the body of Christ, carries with her into the (world)…. the Christian is called to these places by the Gospel and must find ways in these places for witness to the reality of God. The particularities and eventualities of these places need not be accepted as the status quo beyond change or challenge. Rather it means that these places must be seen as being under God’s sovereign rule and intention to redeem…. The Church is the place where these other places are reconceived and construed as the places where the Spirit of God can be at work". Jones, Grammar 633. The importance of vocation as a topic treated in the home at the service of the Church is expressed by Dunn, who notes that the New Testament household codes indicate that “the relationships with the family and household were themselves part of Christian vocation and were the first place where responsibility to the Lord should come to expression and be put to the test. Discipleship begins in the home.” Dunn, Family in Theological Perspective 56.
[98] “Whatever may be the power and responsibility accorded to parents by their strength, their money, or their rights, their relationship is actually, and ultimately more crucially, defined in light of Christ as an equality. That equality derives not from our politics or our culture, but from the reality of our being recipient alike of that adoption that God offers to humanity… the real issue for us is the hope that God has in store for us and them alike in His divine family, from which ours “takes its name,” and within which our families, like all other loyalties, has to take their proper place.” Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 167.
[99] Jones, Grammar 633.
[100] Dunn notes that these codes in their milieu would have been taken for a certain “settling for life within the status quo,” in a transition away from the earliest phase of the Christian mission, “more marked by breaches within families” in light of “the degree of disparagement of traditional family ties” implicit in Jesus’ call to discipleship. Dunn, Family in Theological Perspective 55.
[101] “Because of the Fall, the early chapters of Genesis do not tell us all we need to know, or even what is most crucial for us to know for the formation of the good and natural family. Our object is not merely to restore family as it was in Eden, before the Fall. The Fall means that family life was interrupted before it matured or ripened to its full potential, before it fulfilled its destiny… yet the pivotal point in history has already occurred, with the coming of Jesus and His initiation of the Kingdom.” Clapp, Families 46.
[102] “Christians affirm that only through God’s revelation- through the particular culture of Israel, in the particular person of Jesus- can we see the natural order as it really is and ought to be. This is the crux of Paul’s argument in Romans 1 and 2. In our fallenness we are given up to a corrupted imagination, to a senseless, debased mind. Clapp, Families 15, 45.
[103] “The liberation of the Christian from “the way things are,” which has been brought about by the Gospel of Christ… makes evident to the believer that the givenness of our subjection to the enslaving or alienating powers of this world is broken. It is natural to feel Christ’s liberation reaching into every kind of bondage, and to want to act in accordance with that radical shift.” Yoder, Politics 45.
[104] Yoder, Politics 185.
[105] “The wife or child or slave who can accept subordination “because it is fitting in the Lord” has not forsaken the radicality of the call of Jesus; it is precisely that attitude toward the structures of this world, this freedom from needing to smash them since they are about to crumble anyway, which Jesus had been first to teach and in His suffering to concretize.” Yoder, Yoder, Politics 186-187.
[106] Galatians 3.
[107] “…the example and teaching of Jesus himself… enables the person in a subordinate position in society to accept and live within that status without resentment, at the same time that it calls upon in the superordinate position to forsake or renounce all domineering use of that status. The call then is not precisely a simple ratification of the stratified society into which the Gospel has come. The subordinate person becomes a free ethical agent in the act of voluntarily acceding to subordination in the power of Christ instead of bowing to it either fatalistically or resentfully. The claim is not that there is immediately a new world regime that violently replaces the old; rather, the old and new order exists concurrently on different levels…the apostles transformed the concept of living within a role by finding out how in each role the servanthood of Christ, the voluntary subordination of one who knows that another regime is normative, could be made concrete. Yoder, Politics 186-187.
[108] I would suggest at this point that Yoder’s scheme of the concurrent existence of the old and new order co-existing in the world would rebuke Christian interest groups that thrust patriarchal structures on the Church in a more liberal age. The “New Testament ethic for living with the structures of society” could easily be read as a mandate for the Church’s authorization of feminist ideals in modern times; but at least recognizing that the New Testament household codes accommodate their culture should give pause to those Christians who insist on resisting their culture to the extent of opposing women’s higher education, political franchise, etc. Such positions reek of self-righteous self-aggrandizement rather than expressing the tone of a servant community. As Clapp suggests, we must read the biblical story with special relevance to modern families; “the Church must respond to the story of Israel and Jesus in light of the particular challenges and privileges of its culture.” Clapp, Families 17.
[109] Patristics scholar Carol Harrison notes the early Church’s resounding, passionate preference for ascetic and authoritative “holy virginity,” and the severe relative dearth of reference to the positive aspects of family life in the early Fathers. Harrison notes that the single state was preferred as tending more towards unity and solidarity within the Church than did the fracturing influence of marriage and reproduction. Harrison, Family in Theological Perspective 80-97.
[110] Hauerwas, “Radical Hope” Reader 512.
[111] “When the Church loses the significance of singleness, I suspect it does so because Christians no longer have any confidence that the Gospel can be received by those who were not “raised” in it. Put differently, Christian justifications of the family may often be the result of Christians no longer believing that the Gospel is true or joyful.” Hauerwas, “Family Grace” Reader 224.
[112] “Singleness was legitimate….because the mission of the Church was such that ‘between the times’ the Church required those who were capable of complete service to the Kingdom… through the (most) significant sacrifice of giving up heirs. There can be no more radical claim than this, as it is the clearest institutional expression that one’s future is not guaranteed by the family, but by the (Gospel preserved in the) Church. Hauerwas continues elsewhere, “singleness is as valid a way of life as marriage because it poignantly embodies the hope of the Kingdom of God and because children are not necessary for the growth of that Kingdom, because the Church is that family that can call the stranger into her midst and recognizes the parental role of those who do not marry.” Hauerwas, “Abortion Theologically Understood”; “Sex in Public” Reader 499, 613.
[113] “The political nature of the Church’s (ethic) is perhaps most clearly illuminated by calling attention to the alternative of singleness as a legitimate form of life among Christians.” Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 499.
[114] Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 497.
[115] Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 497.
[116] Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 497.
[117] Hauerwas qualifies that “singleness is the first way of life for Christians does not imply that marriage and the having of children is in any way a less worthy way to be Christian. Rather, that Christians do not have to marry means that for Christians marriage is given new dignity. We are called to be married for the upbuilding of that community called Church.” Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 227, 447. Notice the comparatively secular worldview expressed by Forum authors who propose expectations of the Christian family than sound household management, propagation, and exclusion of those who are of a different mind; gone are the Christian themes of renunciation for the Kingdom and evangelization of the world: “Therefore, let those who earnestly seek a return to the biblical family carefully search the Scriptures to develop a consistent and comprehensive Christian view of the “patriarch’s” role. Let them meditate on the doctrine of “representation” and understand both the legitimate authority of the father, as well as the limitations of his role. Let fathers govern their homes wisely and justly for the benefit of the entire family not giving in to pride or arrogance. Let the “patriarchs” raise strong, self-governed sons who have discovered their calling and who will work diligently at fulfilling it. Let the “patriarchs” raise godly, modest and temperate daughters who rejoice in their duties as wives and mothers, teaching their children and managing the households. And as for the critics; let us not worry about them-they and the children they never bore, raised nor discipled, will soon be a thing of the past.” Abshire, Patriarchy 10. I propose that such sentiments, bereft of any explicitly Christian mission and orientation, would be entirely at home in the worldview of a fundamentalist Muslim, Hindu, or ancient Roman pagan; Selby proposes on point that “against the dire effects of the loss of (traditional family life) we have to weigh the even more dire effects of the refusal of human clans everywhere to honor their membership of the boundless family that God in His divine grace seeks to bring into being.” Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 166. See also the contrast in between Hauerwas’ and Selby’s perspectives at Selby n.103.
[118] “Marriage and the constitution of family life is the Church’s act, celebrated in its public liturgy, initiates the parties into an ecclesial order and creates rights and duties in the Church between the spouses and their children.” Catechism of the Catholic Church 1631. 1069, 1537. Hauerwas adds that “the vision of marriage for Christians requires and calls forth an extraordinary polity for the very reason that Christian marriage is such an extraordinary thing.” Hauerwas, “Sex in Public” Reader 494.
[119] In construing the Church as “family” relevant to its mission and the mission of believers within the Church, the author of John asks explicitly, “how does God’s love abide in anyone who has the world’s goods and sees a brother or sister in need and yet refuses to help?” (I John 3:17)
[120] Opening the home as the servant of the Church avoids secularization’s false dichotomy between the “public realm” and the “private,” as though the Church and her people were not called into the world for its benefit. In this regard, Clapp traces a serious threat to interests of God’s Kingdom to an enemy that modern American Evangelicalism has embraced in its patriarchal preferences, namely, the relegation of the spiritual to the private sphere through the serialization of the home: “with the rise of the industrialization came the separation of life into compartments pf public and private…. Today we are prone to think and imagine according to these divisions: the public world is male, productive, and areligious. The private world is female, consumption-oriented, and religious. … Christians have (thus) been oddly complicit in relegating God to the domestic… religion has become synonymous with family life and only with family life, till it becomes “hard to see how one could safely leave home at all, while the household removed from the public world becomes trivial and thin.” Clapp, Families 57, 65. Such unfortunate “relegation” and division of temporal from spiritual is evident in this Forum author’s designation of distinct political “realms:” “the task of any person in authority is to APPLY that law wisely and justly; i.e., the king to the political realm, the elders to the ecclesiastical realm and fathers to the family realm.” Abshire, Patriarchy 6.
[121] In this regard, Hauerwas emphasizes the Christian’s responsibility to have (or adopt) children in the first place, qua “the refusal to separate marriage and the having of children…What we are about as Christians is the having of children… the having of children is not a matter of our being able to make sure the world into which children are born will be safe… children are the way we remember that it is God that matters, not making the world safe or rich.” Hauerwas, “Radical Hope” Reader 227, 517. On the other hand, Hauerwas sternly avoids the pagan assumption that merely biology makes children ours.” Hauerwas, “Radical Hope” Reader 227. Even Forum authors cede on this point: “We must also understand and accept that with authority comes responsibility; the family belongs to God, not the father. The father cannot govern any way he pleases but only as a wise steward of God’s people; and like unjust, tyrannical kings, God CAN and WILL depose us if we do not fulfill our responsibilities according to His law.” Abshire, Patriarchy 4.
[122] I propose this model in direct contravention of Abshire’s proposal that the Church exists to serve the family and the father’s prerogative to form his family on whatever model he pleases:; Abshire suggests that “teachers in the Church are supposed to assist godly fathers in their dominion duties, not berate them because sometimes not every father gets it completely right.” Abshire, Patriarchy 9.
[123] “In the Church, every adult, whether single or married, is called to be a parent. All Christian adults have a parental responsibility because of baptism. Biology does not make parents in the Church. Baptism does.” Hauerwas, “Abortion Theologically Understood” Reader 612. Hauerwas elaborates further, “from a Christian perspective (that children are born of our bodies) is not a necessary condition for our responsibility for children.” Hauerwas, “Radical Hope” Reader 227. On this understanding, “Christians, single and married, are parents,” since “parent names an office of the Christian community that everyone in the community is expected to fulfill faithfully. Those called to marriage are presumed to accept the call and responsibility to have and care for particular children in the name of the community… that is why the Church rightly expects parents to bring up children in the faith.” Hauerwas, “Radical Hope” Reader 227.
[124] Hauerwas, “Radical Hope” Reader 511.
[125] Clapp, Families 65.
[126] Selby, Family in Theological Perspective 168.
[127] John Paul II, Centessimus Annus 45. See also Acts 5:29, qtd, Ibid.
[128] Clapp, Families 46.
[129] Clapp, Families 76.
[130] Clapp offers the following corroborating Scriptures: Jesus names His followers as His true “brothers and sisters,” superceding His biological relationships; Jesus declares that the advent of Kingdom will mean brother turning against brother, children against parents, and parents against children (Matthew 10:21-22); Jesus warns that He has not come to bring peace but a sword (Matthew 10:34) and that those who would love father or mother more than Jesus are not worthy of Him (Matthew 10:37). Furthermore, Jesus’ admonition to “let the dead bury their own dead” of Luke 9:57-60 would have been culturally understood as a harsh and demeaning abrogation of the fourth commandment. Clapp, Families 77.
[131] “The Church renders its service to human society by preaching the truth about the creation of the world, which God has placed in human hands so that people may make it fruitful and more perfect through their work; and by preaching the truth about the Redemption, whereby the Son of God has saved mankind.” John Paul II, Centessimus Annus<